The Basics of Good parenting
Common sense and good parenting don't always co-exist. Some parents lack experience, knowledge and wisdom that is often connected with raring a well adjusted child. Too many people attempt to wing it, without seeking adequate understanding or available help. To be fair many individuals were raised in a home that could be termed difunctional and/or far from balanced. This would indeed make it hard for them to give what they didn't learn or possess themeselves.
Now, there is no excuse for continuing the cycle of dysfunction as there are so many resources that are ready and willing to assist parents. Equipping them with the required practises, skills and techniques for excellent parenting. From online courses, books and videos that freely distribute parenting training regarding skills and wisdom.
Let's face it, parenting can be an extremely hard task and may require going back to school in order to assist their child through their schooling journey.
However, there are a few basic guidelines when it comes to parenting. We're going to cover the essentials that every mom and dad will benefit from acquiring.
The Basics of Good parenting consists of having Control of Your Temperament
Let's be clear, it is never all right to demean your child. It's not wise to verbally put them down, destroy their confidence or sense of purpose. No matter how mad they make you feel, you should continuously work on managing your temperament and reactions. These actions (no matter how subtle) have an longterm adverse effect on the mental health of the child, aswell as your health. It trains your child to eventually adopt uncontrolled behaviour.
The Basics of Good parenting consists of Being a Great Example
Being a conscious role model is essential. It's really about mentoring your children, guiding them and getting them ready for adulthood. If you wish to teach them to be kind, caring, strong, humble, resillient, mannersable, polite, well the most powerful teaching comes from example. Taking full responsibility for raising your children is a solid start. After all, at some level, you opted to have them and therefore at every level, the responsibility is yours. Moving forward to act, think and speak in a way that passes on good examples to your child, is being responsible for your parenting. This is also based on the foreknowledge that children are like sponges, they absorb much of their environment without question, forming their central library of beliefs - read more about this in the Growth Mindset Secrets book.
The Basics of Good parenting has at it's roots in Good Communication
Teaching your child to be responsible and accountable relies on good communication. However, communication relies on you managing your moods. There is no parent better than one who is committed to managing their emotions in order to communicate with their child well. Communications do not have to be hard, it merely needs to be sincere and executed consistently.
Interacting does not even have to be too in depth. Some individuals are just not comfortable with talking about their deepest emotions. Just speak to your children about the things that matter to them and you. Making sure they feel special, wanted, loved and valued.
Making them know that they can talk about anything, is a priceless comfort and gift.
Remember, you can only pass on what you know, know more so you can pass on more.
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Liz Cambel xx
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